A man’s manners are a mirror in which he shows his portrait.
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Before diving into my little ramble on politeness, please let me stress that I am not generalising the opinions of the entire Spanish population. Indeed not. This only refers to that teeny weeny percentage of the population to whom I rudely interrupted in the middle of their conversations on politeness. You see, during the last few years I have arrived in the middle of too many conversations that say that the English are extremely rude because they are polite.
Please allow me to explain. Spanish people are usually a cheerful bunch, though it’s usually when they feel like it. Spanish people are always up for a joke, fiestas and laughs. When they feel like it, to their friends and family. They think that if a shopkeeper is polite to you, it can only mean that because they don’t know you personally, they really do not like you and therefore they only pretend to be polite, when in actual fact they feel like being rude. Therefore it’s being double rude because they are not showing their real feelings. It’s as if they were lying.
This idea is too labyrinthine for me.
I have also worked in retail pharmacy in the UK, which means I have also had to be falsely polite (as some might say). My opinion on politeness is just the opposite. I believe that when we smile and are nice to somebody, then that person will feel happy and want to smile back. They will walk away with a warm, fuzzy feeling and will want to smile and be nice to the next person they meet. You yourself will also feel happy and want to smile to the next person you meet.
On the contrary, if you are rude to someone, they will not feel good. Even if they are polite enough to keep their calm and smile back, inside they will probably feel down. They will walk away with their head swarming in an invisible grey cloud, and so they may not naturally smile to the next person they meet. You yourself will also feel grouchy and will probably not smile to the next person you meet.
My theory is that both politeness and rudeness are contagious. My theory deepens into the hypothesis that because politeness is a more powerful and positive trait than rudeness, then politeness is even more contagious than rudeness.
What is your theory on politeness?
Last year my mum gave me some tapioca pearls. For a long time I didn’t know what to do with them because I thought they were some kind of magical ingredient that would require some extremely complicated preparations. After I had a quick look through some recipes, I realised that using tapioca pearls is actually really easy. This recipe of tapioca pearls with coconut milk is probably very basic within the tapioca pearl world.
3/4 cup tapioca pearls, 1 can coconut milk, 50g palm sugar, water
Place the tapioca pearls in a large pot. Add water until they are covered. Soak for about 15 minutes. After soaking, heat the pot. Add the coconut milk and about half a cup more of water. Bring to boil while stirring. Lower the heat. Add the palm sugar and stir until it dissolves.
It can be served either hot or cold.
Thank you for reading!